One on One Coaching | Rebecca Ore Coaching Copy 1

What if their slow text back...
Your friend's change in tone...
Or the uncertainty of relationships...
Was never the real problem...

**What if the real problem was the relationship you have with yourself?**

You’ve always been called the sensitive one.

When people seem a little off with you, you instantly feel your chest tighten -assuming something must be wrong & they’re about to leave you.
Your confidence each day goes up and down like a yo-yo - plummeting after small things like a slow text back or a minor criticism.
You can’t say no to a request without feeling guilty for hours - worrying they’ll think you’re a ‘bad person’ or ‘selfish’.
You feel like you have to ask 10 friends and ChatGPT for their advice before making any decision - and then you ruminate about it for days, worrying you made the ‘wrong’ choice.
You leave social events berating yourself. Telling yourself other people were more ‘fun’, ‘interesting’, ‘attractive’, or just better in some way.
And when you feel hurt, rejected, or uncertain in relationships - you can be a little clingy, defensive, or maybe withdrawn… then beat yourself up afterwards for reacting ‘badly’..

Can you relate? If so - keep reading.

I spent the majority of my teenage years & 20’s in a state of anxiety & insecurity.

I felt like a complete victim to the people & situations in my life.

I was terrified of being disliked or rejected.
I constantly blamed other people for how I felt.
And I kept trying to control everything outside of me.

I truly believed that my path to feeling safe & secure was through the validation & acceptance of others…and the certainty that nothing would ever ‘go wrong’.

But here’s the secret that changed everything for me:

It was never the situation around me making me feel so terrible - it was the way I was thinking about them.

And usually, what I was making them mean about me.

I'm all in! Let's work on this.

It’s your internal world - not your external circumstances -

that determines how secure and steady you feel.

**It’s not actually about them - I promise**

Most people believe their feelings of security, safety, and confidence come from things outside of them i.e. other people’s behaviour, acceptance and approval.

So they turn into control enthusiasts.

Trying to get their partner to respond faster or more affectionately.
Or make sure their mother in law is never upset with them.
Or that their best friend doesn’t cancel plans again.

But the truth is - it’s not actually their behaviour that ever causes your emotions.

It’s always the way you THINK about their behaviour.

Your brain has learned to interpret other people’s behaviour in ways that leave you feeling anxious, insecure, rejected, and unsafe.

But what if you could learn to respond differently?

What if you could feel calm, grounded, and secure - regardless of how other people showed up?

Yes please! I want support.

Imagine a world where…

Your mood each day isn’t determined by the speed of their reply or how many emojis they use.
You walk into a room of attractive, smart, confident women - without instantly feeling sh*t about yourself and wanting to go home.
You make a decision that feels good to you, and don’t instantly doubt it when your mum says she thinks it’s a mistake.
You observe other people’s moods & behaviour - without them feeling like personal attacks.
You handle uncertainty from a steady, grounded place - instead of losing days spiralling in ‘What ifs…’
Someone leaving your life no longer feels like the end of the world - because you know you can be okay, no matter who stays or leaves.

This is what’s possible - when you learn how to create feelings of safety, security, and validation from within.

How we make this your reality

I help my clients build the kind of relationship with themselves that feels safe, supportive, and trusting - regardless of what’s happening around them.

Together, we work on breaking the patterns that keep them emotionally dependent on:

Reassurance
Validation
Certainty
And other people’s approval

Instead of trying to control other people or predict every outcome, they learn how to focus on what’s actually within their control:

Their thoughts
Their emotional responses
Their behaviours
And the meaning they attach to situations

This completely changes the way they experience relationships, uncertainty, rejection, criticism, and even their own thoughts.

They learn how to:

Notice anxious thoughts without spiralling
Handle emotional triggers without urgently reacting
Tolerate uncertainty without obsessing over outcomes
Trust themselves to handle difficult emotions & make decisions
Stop needing constant reassurance to feel okay
And create genuine confidence & security from within

I'm in - give me the details!

"I was in my own head overthinking everything in all of my relationships & creating so much unnecessary drama & resentment. But now, I'm finally feeling calm and grounded. Like I actually have control over how I feel. And so I'm not reacting to things in ways that cause huge fights anymore.

"These tools are honestly so practical - they've actually changed my entire experience of all of my closest relationships, which I didn't know was possible. THANK YOU Rebecca! This work is life changing!"

- Jody

"I was constantly chasing guys that didn't treat me right and feeling anxious every day, waiting for their reply. Now in a place of calmness & peace. The coaching helped me to date with intention and feel good about myself, no matter what. Rebecca is the best coach that anyone could ever hope to work with. Someone who is authentic, encouraging, supportive, and enables truly transformative shifts.

"Without working with Rebecca I would not have found a partner that has the qualities and values that I was looking for. And all of my friends and family have seen a huge change in me."

- Emma

"I was not in a good place before coaching. Every day felt like a battle in my mind & the tiniest thing could set me off. My partner was loving but getting frustrated too.

"I'd done therapy before - but nothing actually clicked until this coaching. Because it actually gave me practical things to do in the moment and helped me finally change my responses to things! I'm so much happier, calmer, and relaxed. My partner has noticed!! The coaching has changed (and is continuing to change) my inner world. Thank you!"

- NW

"I swear this stuff actually works. THANK YOU REBECCA! I've never had someone provide such practical advice & guidance that actually changes how you feel. Before coaching I was spending every day frustrated, anxious, and reacting in ways I really didn't like. I'd always thought I was just a jealous, insecure person. Now I realise I just had deep rooted beliefs that weren't helping me.

"I can finally say, I'm feeling calm and secure. Yes, life happens. But I feel like a trust myself to handle anything these days... which is wild when I think of the version of me crying in my car on my lunch break over someone not texting back."

- SD

This isn’t about always ‘thinking positively’.

And it’s not about becoming an arrogant narcissistic who doesn’t care about how other people feel.

It’s about becoming a person who feels in charge of their emotional experience - instead of overwhelmed by it.

It’s about creating a relationship with yourself that’s filled with safety, support, and comfort - so that life & relationships no longer feel so terrifying.

As cheesy as it sounds - your relationship with yourself is the only one you have for life.

If you’re done feeling outsourcing your sense of confidence, security and safety to other people, outcomes, and external validation...

Let’s talk.

Click here to enquire directly about my 1:1 coaching packages and book a free 30 discovery call.

Together we’ll explore the patterns keeping you stuck and how this work could finally help you to change them.

Or - pop your details below - and I'll reach out to you!

1:1 coaching packages = (£450 - £475p/m)

Hourly sessions where you will have my guidance and support each week
Voxer support (similar to WhatsApp) where you can message and voice clip me in between sessions
Free access to my digital course - The Relationship Mind Drama Bootcamp

30 minute consult available.

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